tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2047096936084071173.post7309910465131151292..comments2012-03-18T00:24:41.668+00:00Comments on Crafty manoeuvres: Who am I?Bexhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13488326111621207081noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2047096936084071173.post-37063081003204573262011-03-06T08:54:47.754+00:002011-03-06T08:54:47.754+00:00Thanks for your comments.
Frances, I really like ...Thanks for your comments.<br /><br />Frances, I really like your oxygen mask idea. I find it so hard to allow myself to think about my own needs and wants first without feeling selfish about it. It seems wrong and then I feel guilty, but at the same time I know that if I'm not in the right place, it's so much harder to be there and strong and loving for anyone else for any length of time. <br /><br />I agree with the concept of being a whole person, complete, strong and not looking to fill the gaps with someone else before getting into a relationship. I guess I just didn't think it would take as long as it's taking to get me to that point. I can't work out if I'm happy with who I am and am therefore ready to be complemented by someone else, and just missing that, or if I'm still needing someone else to make me whole. <br /><br />Who knows? It sure ain't me at the moment though!!Bexhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13488326111621207081noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2047096936084071173.post-28344247237838996872011-03-05T19:07:49.684+00:002011-03-05T19:07:49.684+00:00I’ve always believed that the best time to find a ...I’ve always believed that the best time to find a new relationship is when you are happy and content without a relationship. You have to be a complete person in your own right then find someone to complement you. When you look to find someone to complete you, or to fill in the gaps, you do both parties a disservice. <br /><br />Of course you’re going to want a relationship more when you’re feeling down because the theory is that if you had a partner, you wouldn’t feel so alone. (Which isn’t always true!) It doesn’t mean you’re selfish—it means you’re normal.<br /><br />That said, you should be selfish. You should think of your own needs first because you are the most important person in your world—or you should be. Your own needs and desires should come first and foremost because fulfilling them will make you a happier person. And if you’re a happier person, it is easier for you to think of the needs of others. It’s sort of like the safety demonstration on the airplane when they tell you to put on your own oxygen mask first so that you’re better able to assist others.<br /><br />(Sorry, that’s probably a load of rubbish. I hope it’s not completely unhelpful!)Just Franceshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07186075294949877345noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2047096936084071173.post-55557728177064932622011-03-05T18:07:55.743+00:002011-03-05T18:07:55.743+00:00It's an incredibly honest post and shows how f...It's an incredibly honest post and shows how far you are already down the road to working out what it is you want with the rest of your life.<br />Personally speaking, I'm finding my forties a really exciting time to be in, where I am starting to see the glimmer of awareness at the end of the tunnel. I've found I'm stronger, more resilient and resourceful, intelligent and aware, and adaptive. I'm also realising that my needs, wants, expectations are not concrete - they are more fluid than I ever imagined and cannot be pinned down with a handy label. Frustrating? You betcha. But exhilarating too if I 'surrender' somewhat to the ride. <br />I have no doubt I'll get there eventually, I am a little concerned it might not be until decades in the future.<br />I have no doubts that you will also get to wherever you need to be :)pomomamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08338550638937829078noreply@blogger.com